We rarely seek solitude, but it often brings much needed solace.
As human beings, we are naturally social creatures. We enjoy company, and most, I would think, prefer to be with others than on their own. However, there are moments when solitude is preferable or even needed for personal reasons.
Solitude is often mistaken for loneliness. Loneliness is mostly known as the lack of companionship and the desire for connection, whereas solitude is a state of seclusion.
In other words, solitude is more of a choice than loneliness. Despite the negative connotations associated with these terms, solitude is also known to bring solace. Personally, I sometimes crave and cherish the quiet.
For instance, as a reader, I absolutely need silence in order to read. I have trouble concentrating when there is noise around me, such as music in the background or people chit-chatting. I need the quiet to process the content I’m reading, and I also find myself enjoying a text more when it’s quiet.
Reading is time I reserve for myself simply because it makes me feel good. It’s my favourite solitary activity.
I also really love being in the company of other people. I get excited whenever a friend asks to meet for a study session, but it never works out productively for anyone. It’s common for friends to talk amongst themselves while aiming to do schoolwork; it’s a big distraction, resulting in little to no work being done. In times like these, one might opt for solitude, especially if you’re a student or have work to do from home.
Such priorities should be given our undivided attention.
The same can be said for workouts at the gym, at least for me. Exercising can be hard, and it’s not every day that people feel up for it. Working out with friends is a strong motivator, and I’ve done so in the past. But I prefer to work out at the gym alone, because I always have a better workout when I’m not preoccupied with anything or anyone. This is a time when I like to be by myself. It allows me both to think and clear my mind, simultaneously.
With the constant presence of social media, the news, or other outlets, it can be difficult to think for ourselves. These platforms tend to influence us more than we realize, which is why it’s fundamental that we think clearly and critically, which is best done in moments of solitude.
Solitude is also an opportunity for us to get to know ourselves. After all, it’s our company that we endure the most, so we might as well enjoy it.
Solitude is not necessarily bad. Sometimes, it’s warranted. And at the end of the day, it’s all for your benefit, reaffirming that solitude really is your friend.
